It’s 2021 and yet naturalness is still not accepted.
All those people who advocate naturalness, flab on the belly, imperfect skin, frizzy hair and so on are people who themselves boast ‘textbook’ physiques, uncontaminated skin and hair that is always perfectly in order.
It’s easy to be an ambassador for something when you’re not the person who has to deal with it, when someone with the perfect physique comes along and tells you that ‘you don’t have to feel ashamed when you’re in a swimming costume’, it only makes the situation worse in my opinion.
However, it is not their fault that the concept of the ‘perfect physique’ is so inculcated in our society, it is certainly not their fault if they have a fast metabolism, an immense passion for sport, a fine bone structure or anything else. These people will have problems of their own, I am sure, because every human being is confronted at least once in their life with an aspect of themselves they do not like.
We have grown up in a society where we are taught to identify our flaws rather than our strengths, and there could be no more wrong thing than that.
I myself have often found it difficult to list more than one virtue at the job interviews I have gone to, and often that virtue I listed was simply a flaw of mine told in a different way, with the usual phrase “it is my flaw but it could also be seen as a virtue” so in any case without the necessary conviction.
However, this is not my fault or the fault of the upbringing I received from my parents. It is the fault of the society in which we live, according to which the ultimate goal of the individuals who make it up should be perfection, and this can only be achieved at the expense of individuality, which is not seen as something important.
But that is precisely where we are wrong.
Individuality is precisely what we should cultivate, so that diversity becomes normal.
I don’t mean to say that people should stop going to the gym or eating healthy, on the contrary, but you should only do it because it makes you feel good, not because society tells you it’s the right thing to do. If you feel good about waking up at 5am to go to the gym do it, if you feel good about going for a walk do it, if you feel good about eating ice cream do it, the important thing is that you do it for yourself.
We have to stop comparing ourselves to others because that will never get us anywhere. There will always be those who are thinner, more talented or have better skin than us, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t have the same value as these people.
I have imperfect skin that cracks every fortnight or so, I have blackheads on my nose, and in some areas it looks like I’ve spilled oil on my face. I put the necessary creams on it, take care of it as much as I can, and most importantly, I’ve learned that I don’t have to be ashamed of it. That’s just the way I am and putting foundation on it to comply with the standards imposed by who knows who will not help my self-esteem, as the skin will continue to deteriorate, nor will it help the skin heal. It took me a while to learn this, but I learned it.
I’ve learned that I don’t always have to wear make-up to leave the house, I’ve learned that I have to please myself before others do. Now I go to the gym, yes, but not to achieve the physique of the model I saw on who knows what billboard, but rather for my physical and mental well-being.
What I mean by all these “beautiful words” is that we must fight for our individuality and do what we like without any shame. You have to recognise virtues in yourself, because everyone has them without exception, but above all you have to detach yourself from the image that society teaches us is the standard one, the one accepted by everyone, because there is no such image, there is no perfection.
This is me, without make-up, without perfect hair and without filters. Too pale for some, too round, too curly, too little unique, too little perfect. But it’s OK because I have learned to accept myself for what I am, with good and bad points. At the next interview, I know exactly what I will be able to say is my virtue: awareness.